When I read the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin a few months ago I was instantly energised by the potential impact it could have on my life. But, as many moms know, sometimes we quietly place our own needs on the back burner until we can shift the focus momentarily to ourselves. My own needs remained on the back burner for way too long and I had reached an all time low in my life. I began wondering when my life had turned into an endless list of to dos and I couldn’t remember the last time I had actually laughed till I cried. My relationship with my husband seemed more about logistics than about love and friendship, and my deteriorating health was causing me serious anxiety. When my friends called or sent me messages I felt guilty and under pressure to make time for them. The straw that broke this camels back came when my sister-in-law commented that my life was too “centered around the children.” I consider her an involved and caring mother, so I took her criticism seriously. Had my life become imbalanced? Was I actually causing harm to my children by not giving them the space they needed to build independence and confidence?
Answering these questions brought me to the realization that I had neglected my inner soul, my being, who I am, in order to keep things moving along. But I don’t want things to “move along” anymore. I want to live a life that is aligned to my passions and needs, and not one which just happens because that’s the way the water is flowing. I honestly believe this will also be better for my family. Who wants a one dimensional zombie for a mother or wife? I’m quite certain my children and husband will be much happier if I myself am happy.
And so I am beginning my Happiness Project, a 12 month journey during which I will dedicate time and energy to the things I love and enjoy, or to those habits I wish I had. It will require a lot of discipline and commitment on my part but I hope my own journey will motivate other moms to fill their own cups once in a while, and maybe even begin their own Happiness Project! I’d love your support in my journey so make sure you drop us a comment if you have something nice to say! To stay updated on the happiness project, make sure you subscribe to the blog and follow me on Instagram.
If you’re interested in starting your own happiness project, check out the Happiness Project ToolKit on http://www.gretchenrubin.com/